I’m Valerie—writer, dating coach, storyteller, and recovering overthinker.
ValsBytes is where humor, heartbreak, healing, and a few too many late-night thoughts come to live.

Whether I’m unpacking a bad date, rediscovering myself after marriage, or tackling what it means to love (yourself and someone else) in a complicated world, this blog is a bite-sized serving of real life. Some of it’s funny. Some of it’s raw. All of it’s honest.

You'll find posts about:

• Dating after trauma (yep, I’ve got stories)

• Navigating modern relationships without losing your mind

• Loving someone with baggage… while carrying your own

• Personal growth, identity, and healing

• A touch of travel, a dash of career pivoting, and lots of caffeine

This is a space for anyone who’s ever felt too much, lost themselves in love, or cracked a joke in the middle of crying. You’re not alone here.

So pull up a chair, pour some cafecito, and stay awhile.
Let’s figure this life thing out—one byte at a time