Mr. Right vs Mr. Right Now

What is the real difference between Mr. Right and Mr. Right Now? I have come across many Mr. Right Nows. They are absolutely great for the time being but are they great for much longer? They are supposed to be some sort of life experience which would lead you to Mr. Right, but if you're like me, life is full of tons of Mr. Right Nows. Mr. Right Nows say the right thing, most of the time they seem like they are the man of your dreams, but you are making a sacrifice in what you really want in a Mr. Right just not to be alone. Also, there are different levels of Mr. Right Now, there are the ones you just hang on to so you won't go to a movie alone, and there are those which you attempt a short-term relationship with, but it never seems to work out because they aren't Mr. Right.

I like to think the romantic part of me is looking for Mr. Right. But in the meantime, Mr. Right Now is kind of fun.

The Dating Routine

I haven't written in a while because nothing in this "real world" life has intrigued me enough to analyze. But one thing which I have been thinking about is dating. My best friend was telling me the other day that one of my responses to a potential suitor sounded like it was rehearsed. In a sense, it was. After dating the last seven years and not getting into any serious relationships, except one, which lasted eight months, there has been much routine. We meet someone and get the cliched questions out of the way, such as age, occupation, passions, a short autobiography. There might be different scenarios in which these all take place, but it's always the same information. The first conversation has been rehearsed. My goals have changed, I've had different past experiences but it always the same content. The routine can get incredibly boring. Granted, I'll be honest, I like the attention I get, but I do get bored and possibly avoid the conversation unless the person intrigues me enough to continue to the cliched questioning.

I have been thinking, that I might continue this routine because I do get pressure from my family to find the right one. But what is the rush? I might be bored with the routine, but it doesn't mean I don't have a couple more initial conversations with me.

Also, I wanted to clarify, meeting people in life and routine dating conversations are different. I am always up to meeting new people, but they all serve different purposes. Some are for business, and some are for pleasure. The dating routine is only meant for those interested in getting to know in a romantic sense.

Actions Speak Louder than Words

This past weekend I have stepped into the reality of actions speaking louder than words. Honestly, how stupid do you think I am? It's like men feed you all of these words and lines to make you feel like you are on top of the world but in reality its just that, words. I remember the time that I fell for these "words," it honestly does not take a lot for me to feel like I could trust you but come on!!! Do you think I'm going to have a one night stand with someone when they tell me...no ma' I promise that we'll be friends. What kinds of relationships last after a one night stand? Purely sexual ones, I can tell you that much. I just keep bumping into these guys who think that if they say the right thing, they can get into my pants. What you don't realize, I've experienced the "words" to their fullest potential. Promises broken, hearts broken, hopes lost.On the real though, I like to live life positively, but if one is surrounded by all of this negativity, wondering if one is going to be judged by a choice she made, then they have another thing coming. I have been told on many occasions that I'm "one of the guys" so wouldn't you think I would know a thing or two about "words." I'm guilty of the same crime. I think if you know the craft or the game just as well as the next guy, then there is no reason for them to believe they got one on me. When will people start getting real?