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5 Topics Couples Don’t Discuss Until It’s Too Late


Murphy’s law teaches us only one thing. Couples should discuss topics that can go south before they occur. Marriage is a fortress; its stability depends on how much attention you devote while building its base. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, that’s why you should discuss this topic on time; it might spare you of nerve-wracking…

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Online Dating – You’re Doing It Wrong


Smartphones and apps have opened the floodgates of free online dating. And why not? You can meet lots of interesting people online – more than you’ll meet in a loud, smoky bar. You can filter them to make sure their age, appearance, background, and interests are compatible with yours. And it’s fun. Research firm GlobalWebIndex reported in 2015 that 91…

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The Rise of Dating Apps – Infographic


There is no doubt about the fact that we have seen a phenomenal rise in the use of dating apps and websites in the last number of years. Societal and technological changes have contributed to this rise with people more accepting of casual relationships and also we have witnessed the proliferation of smartphones and the Internet. Tinder, Grindr, Badoo are…

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Caller Smart – The app that will block catfishing


Have you ever wondered how to prevent potential Catfishing or ending up in a situation like my friend from one of my previous blogs, What’s your last name again?   Well, guess what?  There’s an app for that! Katie from Caller Smart reached out to me to spread the word on how their app can help eliminate the possibility of having the…

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Commitaphobes vs Monogamers


A good friend of mine, “Los” (short for Carlos) and I have talked several times about commitephobes and monogamers.  Both of them exist in the dating world.  I admit, for a long time, I was a commitaphobe.  There was a point I was about to get married to someone and I wanted to run so far, he would never find…

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Serendipity


Recently, life has been very interesting to me specifically in some coincidental occurrences. As you all might know, I have recently started a relationship with God. With that, a lot of prayer has come into my life. It’s strange because I can honestly say, I’m not the same person I was 6 months ago. I’m completely content. There have been…

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What’s your last name again?


You really don’t know a person until you know ummm… their last name?  Recently, a really good friend of mine decided to embark on the internet dating scene after a traumatizing end to a relationship.  I warned her that maybe she wasn’t ready for dating so I directed her to a free dating site just to get her feet wet. …

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Downtown Duesche


There is a breed of guy I absolutely despise.  Its the guy who lives downtown and is always out and about on the hunt for women.  Last week, out of boredom, I sent a text to someone I had been talking to briefly to grab a quick drink.  I kept putting off the meeting because something I just sensed something…

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Ryan Reynolds


Last night, I went on a date with someone I met off of Match.com.  Initially, I didn’t have high expectations because he didn’t really seem to be my type physically on his profile and after talking to him on the phone, it was hard to get a story from him.  Anyhow, I was being overly critical just to protect my…

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What did I say?


You get more bees with honey than with vinegar

In the last couple of months, I have endured a bit of a experiment to restart dating on a free site (which name I will not disclose).  I have a friend of mine who believes he might have had success on this particular site but he literally dates everyone of the girls he has the slightest interest in and keeps a log of who he might see for a second time.  Anyhow, what I find interesting on this site is that it is full of insecure men who are trying to find Ms. Right Now.  I’ve heard it is full of crazy women with several kids from different fathers, stalkers, and other psychos.  I’m sure the reason they keep talking to me is because I might be the most normal they’ve spoken to in a while.

A few weeks ago, I started a conversation with someone who seemed interesting in the beginning.  While the conversation progressed, I found out he didn’t have a car.  I mentioned it was not a positive point and he immediately dismissed me as superficial.  Say what?!?!  He might have had several other experiences with other women, however, I didn’t say no.  After I reassured him that not having a car was not a deal breaker, we continued talking.  He then asked if I wanted to hang out with his friends and him on the Thursday of that week.  I have a few rules when it comes to online dating but I’ll post that in another blog.  I turned him down, besides it was a week night.  Then after he asked for my number, he sent a text 30 minutes later (which was my bedtime) and I told him I was going to pass out.  He, again, got defensive and said that I would probably never text him again.  Yuck!  Insecurity is such a huge turn off. 

I find it that insecure men need to be told that regardless of their situation, they are amazing.  They need to be “coddled”.  What I find interesting about the profiles is that you can tell what kind of person they are right off the bat.  If someone puts himself on a high horse, then dismisses any woman who has kids, no teeth, no education, and so on.  But what I’ve realized, the older I get, why miss out on an opportunity because someone might not have EVERYTHING you want?  I read in Patty Stanger’s How to become your own Matchmaker you need to establish a list of things you absolutely need.  They are 10 must haves then 5 non-negotiables.  Those non-negotiables are things which you will not move on, but everything else is something you can possibly make an exception on.  It is one thing to list the things you might want, but be positive.  You get more bees with honey than with vinegar, or at least that’s what they say.  

Funny, when I write these blogs sometimes, I think of a friend close to mine who swears I quote him but here I go, he say, “Being with someone depends on how much crazy your willing to deal with at the end of the day.” 

I will say this, I’ve been on this crazy site before and I literally just get tired of meeting people who are strange, insecure and/or I don’t have chemistry with, then I close the account.  I believe that time is coming pretty soon.  Plus football season is around the corner and who really has time to date then. I’ll wait for spring fever to kick back in.  🙂

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