settler, reacher, dating advice, relationship advice, dating, blogger, relationship, blog

The Settler vs The Reacher


Coincidently, when it comes to figuring out to post, life usually hands me a lemon.  In this case, I was binging on How I Met Your Mother (for the second time) and I came across this episode where Marshall is told he’s the “reacher” and Lily is the “settler” in their relationship.  Of course, there’s a funny plot twist where…

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happy relationship, wedding, wedding photo, blogger, dating blogger, ceviche, downtown orlando

No One Wants to Hear about a Happy Relationship


“No one wants to hear about a happy relationship.”  That’s the Comedian said after doing a bit on stage.  Before he told a joke, he would run it by me to ask whether it was okay.  I honestly didn’t mind.  I knew it was an exaggerated version of our reality.  Once, a woman pulled me to the side after he…

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Honeymoon, Mexico, cancun, intimacy, technology, blog, dating, dating blog, relationships, love

Why Technology is Killing Intimacy


I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts yesterday, Heather Dubrow’s World, by one of the housewives of Orange County.  Heather Dubrow had Dr. Drew Pinsky on her show, and he mentioned something that got me thinking.  Technology has gotten in the way of intimacy. What do I mean by this?  Well, apps like Tinder give people the ability…

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Wedding, blog, relationships, dating, marriage, the comedian, the beard and the mole

I’m Officially Mrs. Comedian!


I’ve officially been married to the Comedian for a month and two days.  I know I’m a bit late on relaying my experience but what better time before a long weekend to indulge in some wedding highs and lows. Overall, it was exactly what I wanted.  A big party.  I couldn’t have asked for a better group of people to…

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matchmaking, love, relationships, dating, advice, blog

The Truth to Matchmaking


It seems every time I meet a guy friend of The Comedian’s, I get asked, do I have any single girlfriends.  The answer is, yes, I do.  Whether I feel they are an appropriate match for that person is a biased opinion. Hooking people up or matchmaking is a science.  You can’t just hook two people up all willy nilly.…

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relationships, dating, advice

My Rattled Psyche


My psyche has been rattled quite a bit over the past few months. Wedding planning is more like a psychological roller coaster that takes you from super excited to damn right devastated. I spoke to one of The Comedian’s coworkers yesterday whose daughter is planning a wedding and she mentioned her daughter is at the stage where she does not…

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A Commitphobe strikes again!


I am sincerely honored to get asked advice from someone who I normally speak to in my social circle.  Thank you so much for reading my blog! Here goes: Dear Val, I have fallen for a commitphobe guy which I dated for 2 months. He has been in relationships up to 5 years but only because of his children. Every…

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Caller Smart – The app that will block catfishing


Have you ever wondered how to prevent potential Catfishing or ending up in a situation like my friend from one of my previous blogs, What’s your last name again?   Well, guess what?  There’s an app for that! Katie from Caller Smart reached out to me to spread the word on how their app can help eliminate the possibility of having the…

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Wedding Cake Rant


I have a confession… I don’t like cake.  This is my struggle.  The wedding industry is telling me I have to spend $500 on something I don’t like to eat.  My fiance, however, does like cake so the battle is not completely lost.  I really do want to get a cake to do the whole “shove the cake in your…

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Saints, New York Giants, Football

And We Watched Football


We looked at the stars while he passed me my drink. This is just the way I’ve always wanted to experience life. The beach chairs in his parent’s backyard gave us the perfect view of the sparkling night sky. I met him through a mutual friend at a club and our personalities just clicked. I wondered what attracted me to…

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